Let’s Test

How far would you go for someone you love? 

I am always the kind of person who would go out of my way for those I love. I would always be the friend who texts first and makes the plans, I would be the one who drives out to see my friends, I would even pay for our drinks and lunch from time to time. 

A few weeks ago however, I got into a car accident and broke two of my hip bones. This put me out of order: I was unable to walk, my car had been written off, I was too weak to text most of the time and basically I was just in stuck in bed to recover. 

This turned out to be a great test. With me being unable to do anything for anyone… Who would do something for me? 

I must say the result was pretty shocking. I got phone calls and visits and care packages from many of my loved ones, friends of mine who didn’t even have cars spend money on an Uber to make it to me, people found time in their busy schedules to send me their consent. Now these are the kind of people I want in my life. 

On the other hand some of the “friends” I’ve done so much for in the past were completely absent; they didn’t even care enough to ask how I was. I guess not everyone has the same kind heart that I have. 

This made me decide to filter my friend list. If someone would do nothing for me why should I do everything for them? Enough was enough. 

I highly recommend everyone to do this test. Now I’m not saying you should get into an accident and break your hip – in fact, please DON’T do that, it’s very painful – I’m just saying stop doing stuff for people for a while. 

Take a week and don’t drive to anyone, don’t make the first call, just stay at home and do your thing and see who comes your way. Those who do can stay. 

When we are kind and loving, people tend to take advantage of that and we tend to let them. Sometimes we forget to put ourselves first and we are so focused on how to keep others happy we don’t see that they are the reason for our own unhappiness. 

Don’t be afraid to edit your friend list very often – stop trying to win your friends over and rather make sure that they deserve you! 


From a girl who lost her mind.

11 thoughts on “Let’s Test

  1. let me just start with I am so sorry you went through that ,but so happy your doing well . This post you wrote is so close to my heart I am that person you explained of yourself as well .I hate to admit I wouldn’t have gotten the same responses back as you did sadly I know this already . I have cut back some of being that person who is there and okay it’s a hard test but it does show who you can count on and I am finding I am more relaxed . Thank You for writing about this. have a great day.

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  2. I am super sorry to hear about your car accident and injury! How do you feel now? Is everything somewhat back to working order?

    It is always important for us to be somewhat objective in seeing our relationships–some people do just want to be shallow, and some want to forge real friendships and be there for you. If you surround yourself with genuine people that want to give as much to you as you do to them, then life will instantly be that much more worth it.

    Great post! 🙂

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  3. Very sorry for your accident ordeal. Hope your recovery rate is great, God’s got you.

    It’s true what you’ve written. But if and only if you will appreciate that we all don’t have such golden heart as yours, you may rather want to be proud than to let the stone-hearted ‘friends’ cause you to loose the beautiful heart.

    If you love only those who love you, what then is loving? Jesus Asks…

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